Stylish, inspiring, daring, eccentric, or on the contrary boring and conservative? A good and caring mum, or just a fussy fashionista? A confident, emancipated woman, or an obedient, even buttoned-up wife? So, what do you think I'm really like? Hmm, hard, I know.
Whatever you think, you're actually right. Almost everything is hidden in each of us. It only depends on who is "looking". YES. Because what you think says nothing about me or my life, but about yours. A bold claim? Then let's put it to the test.
The following two photos are from our current holiday in Mauritius and capture "beauty" and fashion, i.e. what we're wearing. My whole blog is carried in this spirit, meant to inspire you. That is, however, my personal view of the matter.
Perhaps most of you see the same thing in the photos. But if, say, a frustrated and bored woman is looking, my life may seem irritatingly wonderful, colourful and interesting to her. If it's a childless thirty-something, she'll breathe a sigh of relief that you can stay "relaxed" and enjoy yourself even with kids. If a content mum on maternity leave is looking, she sees lovely boys and in me a good actress who can play the cheerful, "well-rested" and not at all fed-up mum of two little children. (Anyone who has two children close together knows what "holiday" means.) If a woman who doesn't cope with her kids much looks at the photos, she probably wonders where the hell she went wrong, when I "manage" it playfully and with ease and she doesn't. If you're struggling with finances, you wonder where I get the money for it; if you're overweight, perhaps you wonder whether I eat anything at all, or how much I exercise a day...etc. simply endlessly! BUT all of this says nothing at all about me and above all changes nothing about my life.
You see, reality, and especially the virtual kind, is more or less about who is looking. And so the next time you "hate on", admire or "like" posts, think about your own feeling and also what that feeling says about you. Because even in this digital age we don't have to grow apart from each other, but on the contrary be close not only to those far away, but above all to ourselves.
I often face criticism from my real friends, who admonish me to put the "shadier and more real sides" of life on the blog too. Because my children get sick too (yes, they did on this holiday as well and we even spent a few days at the local clinic), I too have days when I'd happily launch myself into space for a month, I too get fines and flat tyres, and sometimes I feel like things aren't going well for me. BUT. A blog is not a reality show and I'm not a Kardashian. Every blog was created for some purpose, and FashionSpy specifically as fashion inspiration. And so you'll agree, I want to stay nicely dressed, smiling and stylish on the blog. But if you feel you need to see me in everyday situations too, hop over to our Instagram here where I post daily Instastories, yes, even from behind the stove...
If you've read all the way to the end, I'd like to thank you for your support and I hope I haven't scared you off with this pondering. 